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Apathy will be interpreted as acceptance. Do something in the face of hatred.

Hate events are rarely isolated. Take seriously even the smallest hint of hate.

 
Poems

You and I 
written by Elaine Popvich

I am a resident.          You reside.
I am admitted.       You move in.
I have behavior problems. You are rude.
I am non-compliant. You don’t like being told what to do.
When I ask you out to dinner, it is an outing. When you ask someone out, it is a date.
I don’t know how many
people have read the
progress notes about me.
I don’t even know what’s in there.
You didn’t speak to your best
friend for a month after she
read your journal.
I make mistakes during my
check writing program.
Someday I might get a
checking account.
You forgot to record withdrawals
from your account. The bank calls
to remind you.
I celebrated my birthday yesterday
with 5 other residents and 2 staff members.
I hope my family send me a card.
Your family threw you a surprise party.
I am on a special diet because
I am 5 pounds over my ideal body weight.
You’re doctor gave up telling you.
I am learning household skills.  You hate housework.
I am learning leisure skills. Your shirt says you are a couch potato.
My case manager and other professionals
set goals for me for next year.
You haven’t decided what you
want out of life.
Someday I will be discharged - - - -maybe. You will move onward and upward.

 

Slow Dance 
If you know her name, we would like to attribute

Have you ever watched kids
On a merry-go-round?

Or listened to the rain

Ever followed a butterfly's erratic flight?

Or gazed at the sun into the fading night?

     You better slow down.
     Don't dance so fast.

     Time is short.
      The music won't last.

Do you run through each day
On the fly?

When you ask How are you?
Do you hear the reply?

When the day is done
Do you lie in your bed

With the next hundred chores
Running through your head?

  You'd better slow down
    Don't dance so fast.

     Time is short.
     The music won't last.

Ever told your child,
We'll do it tomorrow?

And in your haste,
Not see his sorrow?

Ever lost touch,
Let a good friendship die

Cause you never had time
To call and say,"hi"

     You'd better slow down.
      Don't dance so fast.

      Time is short.
      The music won't last.

When you run so fast to get somewhere
You miss half the fun of getting there.

When you worry and hurry through your day,
It is like an unopened gift....
Thrown away.

   Life is not a race.
   Hear the music
   Before the song is over.

This poem was written by a terminally ill young girl in a New York Hospital.

Foster and Adoptive Care Association of Minnesota
P.O. box 48716
Minneapolis, MN 55448-0716
612-233-3399



Articles have been reprinted from News and Views of Our Families 1992-2004